A wise man once told me " you should never have more kids than arms. " I must say, I totally agree. We have finally gotten to a position where both kids are out of diapers, they can walk up and down the steps on their own, and they sleep through the night. To put an end to such a great thing would just seem unfair. Well guess what? Wifey is starting the negotiations again for #3.
I take a look at this in a diplomatic way. I look at the important facts that are presented and weigh the pros and cons to see if this is the right move for the "team". For the life of me, I can't figure out where she is coming from.
Let's take a look at a few factors, shall we :
1. I love sleep - Sleep in our house comes at a premium. The girls are not late sleepers so the weekends do not offer any relief from the normal everyday schedule. I am not saying that this is the most important thing to me, but having the girls sleeping through the night is a bonus. I can clearly remember the nights with the kids when they were not sleeping through the night. We were getting up every three hours to feed, we were grumpy in the morning, and coffee did NOTHING to help the cause. I distinctly remember one evening in Baltimore where I was banging my head against the wall as I was feeding the oldest one while she was devouring a bottle.
Then there is the monitor. We are about to get rid of the monitor for the little one and go to a monitor free home. The monitor is a game to wifey and I. She thinks that I don't know that she is pretending to sleep when I get up to answer the call. Unfortunately for her, our youngest actually calls out "Mommy", which gives her no out. I typically giggle when this happens and go right back to sleep. I can do many things as the SVP, but transforming into Mommy is not one of them. And for the record, wifey loves sleep more than me, so the thought of splitting feedings is a pipe dream.
2. We like to travel - Before wifey and I had children we loved to take trips! We would go on cruises, go to Aruba, but most importantly go anywhere whenever we wanted to. Since having our princesses' we have been limited to the sights and sounds of one particular mouse that lives in a Magic Kingdom. I am not saying that I have not had a blast in Disney, I just think its time for us to be able to sit down to a meal and not be joined by cartoon characters and singing it's a small world. This year we are taking our first all inclusive vacation with the girls and I am stoked to say the least. I am looking forward to them being able to enjoy this type of vacation. They both are good eaters so they will try food and they love the water so we will be able to have some good family time in the water together. Having a 3rd puts us back a few years on the vacation circuit. That may sound extremely selfish, but being able to hop on a plane with two small kids and not worrying about implosion is huge. I want to travel with a suitcase, not a suitcase, Boppy, car seat, pack n play, seventeen bottles and a diaper bag.
3. I want to go back to work - Ok, so maybe I should have listed this on the top. There has always been the feeling that I want to go back to work when the girls are both in school full-time. As it stands now the youngest is a year away. She will go to Kindergarten this year and then we are off and running. I have always wanted to open my own gym for kids, and with both kids in school I will have time to get things off the ground. A little one puts me back a few years because you know who would be staying home. Yes, I know, short sighted. I can hear all of you Moms saying it right now, but at least I am being honest. I have appreciated the time that I have had home with the girls, and I have gotten to do something that 99% of men will never get to do.
Yes, I know that these reasons seem selfish, and I also understand that they are all temporary things that we will breeze through. That being said, these are my arguments and I am sticking to them. I thought the solution was the ten pound beast but that backfired completely. I think we might have to adopt a 19 year old swedish swimsuit model. This way we have a built in babysitter. Kidding, just wanted to make sure you were still paying attention.
SVP- OUT !
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